"We avoid retaliation or argument. We wouldn't treat sick people
that way. If we do, we destroy our chance of being helpful."
~Alcoholics Anonymous, 4th Edition, How It Works, pg. 67~
Forgiveness is for “me” to
- Give up the Right –
§ To hurt someone back…
Resentment is self-inflicted punishment,
For the perceived wrongs of another.
It does no harm to the other, while tearing the self apart.
It Destroys Serenity, Health, Effectiveness, Peace.
Resentment leads from hurt, to anger, to hostility, to rationalization, to drink, or other destructive behaviors.
Resentment
If you have a
resentment you want to be free of,
if you will pray for
the person or the thing that you resent,
you will be free. If
you will ask in prayer for everything
you want for yourself
to be given to them, you will be free.
Ask for their health,
their prosperity, their happiness, and you will be free.
Even when you don't
really want it for them,
and your prayers are
only words and you don't mean it,
go ahead and do it
anyway. Do it every day for two weeks
and you will find you
have come to mean it and to want it for them,
and you will realize
that where you used to feel bitterness and resentment
and hatred, you now
feel compassionate understanding and love.
from p. 552 of Alcoholics Anonymous, the Big Book of AA
Fighting – Attraction - bitterness
"Some day we hope that Alcoholics Anonymous will
help the public to
a better realization of the gravity of the alcoholic problem, but we
shall be of little use if our attitude is one of bitterness or
hostility. Drinkers will not stand for it.
After all, our problems were of our own making. Bottles were only a
symbol. Besides, we have stopped fighting anybody or anything. We
have to!" Big Book Of AA
Men and women
drink essentially because they like the effect
produced by alcohol. The sensation is so elusive that, while they
admit it is injurious, they cannot after a time differentiate the
true from the false. To them, their alcoholic life seems the only
normal one. They are restless, irritable and discontented, unless
they can again experience the sense of ease and comfort which comes
at once by taking a few drinks—drinks which they see others
taking with impunity."
~Alcoholics Anonymous, 4th Edition, The Doctor's Opinion, pg. xxviii~
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