Developing a relationship with a sponsor is the same as developing a relationship with anyone.  It takes time and dedication!  Call your sponsor:  Talk to them, let them know what you think, how you feel, anything about yourself you can make yourself share.  The more a sponsor/mentor knows, the more they can help you.  Build trust and communication with them through the phone, meetings, coffee, socials, one on one secessions, sponsorship meetings, anyway you can.  Just build!  Ask to spend some One on One time with your sponsor, and stick to your commitment. 

YOUR NOT THE BOSS OF ME

A sponsor is a mentor.  Someone who will share with you how they worked the steps and found the peace and serenity they have in life.  Your not looking for a boss, but you do have to remember that "YOU HAVE TO BE WILLING TO GO TO ANY LENGTHS" to get clean and sober.  If they keep giving suggestions, and you keep not listening, something needs to change!